So now 90% of the way through this journey of telling you in a sense… My story… Or various chapters of the story. I hope that many of you are still maintaining interest in learning more about how Dyspraxia impacts my life. Today I shall be eagerly answering a few more of your questions. So here we go!!!
Do I find eye contact difficult?
This is something which I will go into a lot deeper in a future blog post. I struggle with eye contact a lot, which is where I get the crossover with being on the autism spectrum.
I find it does destroy me. My eye contact is hugely limited and I feel like I almost need to take time out if I made eye contact with somebody because it’s such a huge thing for me.
One of the main reasons why it breaks me up inside is because those closest to me may feel like I don’t have confidence in interacting with them. I don’t know how I could respond to this ideology. One thing I shall say is, despite me having a big difficulty with eye contact, I do try to show confidence in interacting with others whether I make eye contact when I’m interacting with them or not.
Would I consider myself a fussy eater due to disliking of certain food textures?
This is a great question. I would say this is less of a truth nowadays. I think if I go back say 3 years or so I could say I was a bit more fussy.
But this is one of the ideologies I hate the most, people being labelled “a fussy eater”. Before judging someone as a fussy eater… Why not take time to think about the fact that someone may not like certain foods due to the texture.
Adding more foods to my repertoire has helped me to shake off this unwanted sort of label. However, there are still foods I don’t like which I have mentioned in previous blog posts. So I’d say rather than being “fussy”, there are more foods I’m now willing to eat and less that I’m not. I guess playing to the ideology… This can only be a good thing.
Have I had moments where Dyspraxia has benefited me?
I’d say at the time of writing, my answer to this is unclear.
Perhaps it’s benefited me in some ways, such as having the attention to detail at times or being able to accommodate other people in an environment I’m in.
I think perhaps being a determined individual to keep trying hard when I may not feel in the best state of mind shows the determination of a dyspraxic person to keep going even if there may not necessarily be much of a reward for this. I’m digressing because I don’t have a clear way of answering the question. I don’t understand the ways in which it may have benefited me because I don’t tend to think about it.
Do I find it easier to make friends with those with Dyspraxia rather than those who are neuro-typical?
This is also a very interesting question. I’d actually say no to be honest.
At the end of the day (and something I’ll delve deeper into in another blog) I am hypersensitive to things that are said and how I read people. So if I judge someone to have said or done something that I don’t like… Then they won’t be my friend or I won’t interact with them. The reason being here is because I’d feel like I’d be wasting my time.
In addition, I also need to have things in common to be friends with someone really. Because otherwise I just feel like it becomes awkward and nobody wants that feeling.
To tell the truth I find making new friends very difficult because of the way I see the world and how I judge social situations. I have encountered social disappointment before which could well be a determining factor as to why I could tell you that I’m without a doubt… An introvert. And I could also say I’m content with being an introvert too.
Do I find it difficult to judge speed and distance?
The way in which this presents most for me is crossing a road. I do find this a challenge, especially when there are no nearby traffic lights.
When I’m crossing a road without traffic lights, I can’t judge how fast or slow a car is moving so I end up missing a point where I could cross the road.
This only leads to my hatred of not having enough traffic light controlled areas. Think about it, this would only be a helping hand, rather than a hindrance.
Thankfully I’m not in too many situations where I’m with someone who decides they want to cross in a “stupid” place (yes I said it). Quite frankly I would rather be safe rather and get the extra few steps of exercise rather than cross with the chance of people behind the wheel getting annoyed.
In fact, when I used to have driving lessons I was in a situation where there was someone crossing in a “stupid” place where there were no traffic lights. While this annoys me, I would not do the same and would advise people to think about their actions and how drivers might feel angry (me and many others) if you cross where it’s not exactly wise to do so.